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I went a long time thinking being a parent was just not for me i love kids i really do Just never thought of myself as the "type". In past relationships there have been kids but mostly older as much as i have cared for them there was never a deep connection, be it because I never felt the relationship would last or some other reason i don't yet fathom. Currently and for a very long time to come I have a strong loving woman at my side one who has 4 beautiful kids the two older boy live primarily with there dad and are with us on weekends, two younger children are here with us a boy age 2 and a half, and a little girl of 17 months. I have been watching them while mom works i was at first none to happy with diapers and the messes baby's make and some times the stress of not knowing what they needed to get them to stop crying ... well it was rough to say the least. In the long run every stressful moment all the nasty diapers ..... every last one was worth it the first time those little kids look into you eyes and say I love you. they spread there arms wide and smile saying "hug" they put there arms around you squeeze and give that big ol' smile. the boy calls me John, that is fine it is who i am, his sister being younger and having been in her life since before she started talking and walking ...... well to her I am daddy... I can not explain how it feels when she smiles at me and she say in that sweet little voice .."daddy i love you". makes a big ol' tough guy melt .... yeah as her mom is so fond of telling me i am wrapped around her little finger but that is just fine by me... the love of a child is something so special once you have it your never the same again it changes you it makes every thing a little sweeter, you look forward to the next moment because you never know what they are going to do or say. anyway life is still tough my health is still a problem and we never seem to have enough money but over all life is wonderful. I hope all of you have as good a new year as i hope to have. lights just seem to shine a little brighter these days.

If you saw ME in a police car, what would you think I got arrested for?

Answer me, then if you want, post to your own journal and see how many crimes you get accused of?

hello everyone just me again your friendly neighborhood cardiac nightmare. As some, most, or all of you know i went to boston yesterday to meet with the cardiologists recommended by my current cardio doc. I had another echo of my heart done, and another cardiac stress/exercise test. the results of these tests in the words of the professionals "of concern". my results were slightly worse than the test i had just a few months ago, not much worse but noticeably. anyway, they told me that without something being done i would likely be some serious trouble, the next step is for me to go spend a week or so in the hospital in Boston later this month i will have the dates Thursday. while i am there they will be doing more tests some of them are a little invasive others not so much. the goal is to reduce the pressure in and on my heart likely by med changes. more details will follow as i get them. love ya all

John

Excerpts from a Dog's Diary

8:00 am - Dog food! My favourite thing!

9:30 am - A car ride! My favourite thing!

9:40 am - A walk in the park! My favourite thing!

10:30 am - Got rubbed and petted! My favourite thing!

12:00 pm - Lunch! My favourite thing!

1:00 pm - Played in the yard! My favourite thing!

3:00 pm - Wagged my tail! My favourite thing!

5:00 pm - Milk bones! My favourite thing!

7:00 pm - Got to play ball! My favourite thing!

8:00 pm - Wow! Watched TV with the people! My favourite thing!

11:00 pm - Sleeping on the bed! My favourite thing!



Excerpts from a Cat's Diary

Day 983 of my captivity.






My captors continue to taunt me with
bizarre little dangling objects.






They dine lavishly on fresh meat, while
the other inmates and I are fed hash or some sort of dry nuggets.







Although I make my contempt for the rations perfectly clear, I
nevertheless must eat something in order to keep up my strength.






The
only thing that keeps me going is my dream of escape.






In an attempt to
disgust them, I once again vomit on the carpet.








Today I decapitated a mouse and dropped its headless body at
their feet.






I had hoped this would strike fear into their hearts, since
it clearly demonstrates what I am capable of.






However, they merely made
condescending comments about what a "good little hunter" I am.






Bastards!

There was some sort of assembly of their accomplices tonight.






I
was placed in solitary confinement for the duration of the event.







However, I could hear the noises and smell the food.






I overheard that my
confinement was due to the power of "allergies.






" I must learn what this
means, and how to use it to my advantage.








Today I was almost successful in an attempt to assassinate one
of my tormentors by weaving around his feet as he was walking.






I must
try this again tomorrow -- but at the top of the stairs.








I am convinced that the other prisoners here are flunkies and
snitches. The dog receives special privileges.






He is regularly released,
and seems to be more than willing to return. He is obviously retarded.








The bird has got to be an informant.






I observe him communicate
with the guards regularly. I am certain that he reports my every move.







My captors have arranged protective custody for him in an elevated cell,
so he is safe. For now.

1. We expect children to be able to do things before they are ready. - We ask an infant to keep quiet. We ask a 2-year-old to sit still. We ask a 4-year-old to clean his room. In all of these situations, we are being unrealistic. We are setting ourselves up for disappointment and setting up the child for repeated failures to please us. Yet many parents ask their young children to do things that even an older child would find difficult. In short, we ask children to stop acting their age.

2. We become angry when a child fails to meet our needs. - A child can only do what he can do. If a child cannot do something we ask, it is unfair and unrealistic to expect or demand more, and anger only makes things worse. A 2-year-old can only act like a 2-year-old, a 5-year-old cannot act like a 10-year-old, and a 10-year-old cannot act like an adult. To expect more is unrealistic and unhelpful. There are limits to what a child can manage, and if we don't accept those limits, it can only result in frustration on both sides.

3. We mistrust the child's motives. - If a child cannot meet our needs, we assume that he is being defiant, instead of looking closely at the situation from the child's point of view, so we can determine the truth of the matter. In reality, a "defiant" child may be ill, tired, hungry, in pain, responding to an emotional or physical hurt, or struggling with a hidden cause such as food allergy. Yet we seem to overlook these possibilities in favor of thinking the worst about the child's "personality".

4. We don't allow children to be children. - We somehow forget what it was like to be a child ourselves, and expect the child to act like an adult instead of acting his age. A healthy child will be rambunctious, noisy, emotionally expressive, and will have a short attention span. All of these "problems" are not problems at all, but are in fact normal qualities of a normal child. Rather, it is our society and our society's expectations of perfect behavior that are abnormal.

5. We get it backwards. - We expect, and demand, that the child meet our needs - for quiet, for uninterrupted sleep, for obedience to our wishes, and so on. Instead of accepting our parental role to meet the child's needs, we expect the child to care for ours. We can become so focussed on our own unmet needs and frustrations that we forget this is a child, who has needs of his own.

6. We blame and criticize when a child makes a mistake. - Yet children have had very little experience in life, and they will inevitably make mistakes. Mistakes are a natural part of learning at any age. Instead of understanding and helping the child, we blame him, as though he should be able to learn everything perfectly the first time. To err is human; to err in childhood is human and unavoidable. Yet we react to each mistake, infraction of a rule, or misbehavior with surprise and disappointment. It makes no sense to understand that a child will make mistakes, and then to react as though we think the child should behave perfectly at all times.

7. We forget how deeply blame and criticism can hurt a child. - Many parents are coming to understand that physically hurting a child is wrong and harmful, yet many of us forget how painful angry words, insults, and blame can be to a child who can only believe that he is at fault.

8. We forget how healing loving actions can be. - We fall into vicious cycles of blame and misbehavior, instead of stopping to give the child love, reassurance, self-esteem, and security with hugs and kind words.

9. We forget that our behavior provides the most potent lessons to the child. - It is truly "not what we say but what we do" that the child takes to heart. A parent who hits a child for hitting, telling him that hitting is wrong, is in fact teaching that hitting is right, at least for those in power. It is the parent who responds to problems with peaceful solutions who is teaching his child how to be a peaceful adult. So-called problems present our best opportunity for teaching values, because children learn best when they are learning about real things in real life.

10. We see only the outward behavior, not the love and good intentions inside the child.- When a child's behavior disappoints us, we should, more than anything else we do, "assume the best". We should assume that the child means well and is only behaving as well as possible considering all the circumstances (both obvious and hidden from us), together with his level of experience in life. If we always assume the best about our child, the child will be free to do his best. If we give only love, love is all we will receive.

I Am A: Neutral Good Human Ranger (5th Level)


Ability Scores:

Strength-11

Dexterity-10

Constitution-13

Intelligence-11

Wisdom-13

Charisma-12


Alignment:
Neutral Good A neutral good character does the best that a good person can do. He is devoted to helping others. He works with kings and magistrates but does not feel beholden to them. Neutral good is the best alignment you can be because it means doing what is good without bias for or against order. However, neutral good can be a dangerous alignment because because it advances mediocrity by limiting the actions of the truly capable.


Race:
Humans are the most adaptable of the common races. Short generations and a penchant for migration and conquest have made them physically diverse as well. Humans are often unorthodox in their dress, sporting unusual hairstyles, fanciful clothes, tattoos, and the like.


Class:
Rangers are skilled stalkers and hunters who make their home in the woods. Their martial skill is nearly the equal of the fighter, but they lack the latter's dedication to the craft of fighting. Instead, the ranger focuses his skills and training on a specific enemy a type of creature he bears a vengeful grudge against and hunts above all others. Rangers often accept the role of protector, aiding those who live in or travel through the woods. His skills allow him to move quietly and stick to the shadows, especially in natural settings, and he also has special knowledge of certain types of creatures. Finally, an experienced ranger has such a tie to nature that he can actually draw on natural power to cast divine spells, much as a druid does, and like a druid he is often accompanied by animal companions. A ranger's Wisdom score should be high, as this determines the maximum spell level that he can cast.


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